Narcissistic versus Empath Behaviour Explained (Detailed Article by Swati Prakash, http://www.askswati.com)
All humans have a need to be admired, look good in photos, and to be self loving by prioritising own wellbeing, success, and safety first. This is normal. All humans have a need for healthy self esteem, self respect, healthy body and mind, healthy ego (yes, ego is good if healthy), healthy boundaries, and self worth. All humans crave for emotional satisfaction and personal physical, mental, financial freedom and wellbeing. This is NOT narcissistic behaviour.
Narcissism is the opposite of these things.
– Narcissistic people have an inferiority complex or low self esteem as they compare themselves with others and feel ashamed. Therefore they seek domination, power, one sided respect, unnecessary arguments, infighting, sudden conflicts, and regular tensions in order to be in control.
– They thrive on making others feel worthless. They project out that they are ‘better’ than others by running others down, and get into unhealthy or toxic patterns in relationships and at times get abusive.
– Often they target those people who are empaths or healers, those who have a bright aura and good potential, as they hate positive energy and want to bring us down and suck our life force away. Those who are talented, well spoken, good looking, or presentable, successful, and honest, often have a few people who are jealous of them and take undue interest in everything they do, or stalk you and your social media, in order to start targeting the victims and collecting information. If you were chosen by a narcissistic abuser it is very systematic. They don’t select everyone as a victim.
– Narcissists usually lack compassion for others, don’t have kindness, and lack empathy or the capacity to feel for others. It’s very hard for them to show genuine care for others, to respect them, to love anyone, to give anyone priority, to praise, reward in a proper way, to speak as an equal, and to appreciate others.
– When at fault they often blame the victims and accuse others of doing exactly what in reality they have done to them. It is not uncommon for toxic Narcissists to call their own victims Narcissistic and toxic and they instead play victims and seek sympathy at the right time to get others to justify their unusual behaviour and support them. You can be easily fooled as they might have everyone fooled.
– They try to slam others down, throw tantrums like small kids, use rude body language or gestures, grit teeth while speaking, point fingers, glare at others, make you guilt trip for no fault of yours, use bad language, show anger, criticize you minutely in a disproportionate way, find faults with everything, get violent at times, and hurt others deliberately. You never know what sets them off and will need to walk on eggshells so as not to trigger them.
– They also give breadcrumbs at times to pull you back in, or hoover you in, or love bomb you in phases to get you hooked on to the blow hot blow cold, emotional roller coaster in intimate relationships. But the next phase is when the tension builds up and soon they lose control and get upset again for no reason until they explode. The cycle of abuse repeats often with the same victim until the victim wakes up and cuts off from them which angers them.
– They can be quite manipulative in order to take revenge, cry and fake being vulnerable, discard others who disagree with them, run smear campaigns against other, have minions or a few selected people who they puppet around and control, and treat others like slaves, or as dispensible commodities because they never can appreciate anyone’s true intrinsic worth and freedom.
– When they are done with you they move on to the next victim by first seeling fresh supply of new minions and targets, and repeating similar tactics.
A good human being would let everyone shine out and be appreciated. A good human being loves, cares, gives compliments, wants others to be happy, gives gifts, shares credit for work, builds others up, rewards team members, has joyful disposition and a pleasant attitude in general behaviour.
While humans treat others as worthless commodities or routinely use others in romantic or working relationships for sex, pleasure, jobs, labour, etc., we treat animals of other species as objects in the most horrific ways of exploitation and abuse.
This is because of a lack of loving and kind hearts, being selfish, and displaying a tendency to be cruel if need be in order to continue your behaviour without the capacity to self reflect and change yourself.
Narcissism is a very common trait among humans as we have been conditioned to be cold hearted, to obey rules of law or society like robots, or follow commandments of religion and books, instead of using our own heart, intuition, and sensitivity.
We are trained to be insensitive, tough, struggle, chase goals, work like slaves, focus on things to own, consume or use, rather than to focus on other humans or animals in developing equality based mutually beneficial relationships and on love and kindness, in a system of economy which values struggle, stress, and hard work for money over joy, fun, happiness, and emotional satisfaction as a measure of success.
While we are Vegan to not abuse and harm other animals, we need to also know that love, kindness, compassion are also worthwhile goals and to go for Ascension instead of staying neutral and stoically focused on justice, non exploitation and non harming alone as the ultimate end goal. To raise vibrations higher, we must also learn Healing, kindness, power of love, chakra healing meditation, and positive affirmations in order to manifest better realities and live in balance.
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Swati Prakash 